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How To Be More Attractive (or so they say)... 🙄

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How to be more attractive. How to be less ugly. Seriously, are these videos even a thing!? I needed to sit down and discuss it with you. #ManForHimself #Attractive #Ugly #Validation #SelfWorth #SelfLove _______________________ I'M WEARING: - Navy t-shirt - http://rstyle.me/n/crr4dkb6ah7 IN MY HAIR: - Aveda Thickening Tonic - Aveda Thickening Tonic - http://rstyle.me/n/crj5ekb6ah7 (US) / http://amzn.to/2uZvQ8r (UK) - Patricks M3 - http://rstyle.me/~9L1Ly MY HAIRCUT: - My hair was cut 2 days before this video was filmed. It was a 0 clipper back and sides. - The top comes down to the top of my nose. - It's longer in the front than the back. - See my haircut video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uGgMUHZpjCE _______________________ FOLLOW ME! Come and follow me on... Facebook: /ManForHimself Twitter: @ManForHimself Instagram: @ManForHimself Snapchat: @ManForHimself Check out my blog too: http://www.ManForHimself.com _______________________ SUBSCRIBE I'm Robin James. My YouTube channel is a destination for men's style, lifestyle and grooming. I make videos showing how to achieve different hairstyles and haircuts; exploring grooming products; and showcasing men's seasonal and trend led style and fashion. ________________________ MUSIC: Lakey Inspired - https://soundcloud.com/lakeyinspired ________________________ This video is not sponsored. I use affiliate links.
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Robin James (1 year ago)
I had to get this off my chest...
Robin James (1 year ago)
Hey Cole - have you seen any (there have been A LOT) of my replies to this before.
Cole Ramas (1 year ago)
Robin James are you gay? It’s a serious question
george cherry (1 year ago)
could you make a video about the blumaan hybrid clay.
Tonaldo (1 year ago)
Pls no. Theyre for reason cheap.
PxtrickPxrker (1 year ago)
Robin James thank you for making this one, I think it to myself all the time and I'm sure there's quite a few who needed to hear it.
panostalgic (7 days ago)
Well said Robin!!
k (1 month ago)
I don't know man, like obviously confidence is attractive but preference only goes to a certain extent. I think we all realize who is attractive and who isn't because of what magazines and corporations are pushing. I completely agree with you about this 'box' that has been created but you can't really change anything about it. Some people are born ugly and some aren't, we know who is generally ugly and who isn't because of how the lower facial third is formed, mid-face ratio, etc. These are things nobody consciously thinks about but because of how this image of beauty is forced down our throats we subconsciously look for these certain characteristics on a person. I'm being honest here and I'm also a depressed pessimist so maybe that's why I think like this, though I don't find recessed faces attractive for example, and nobody else does either. I don't think I have ever commented on your videos because I don't really watch you but I've come across a few and you're genuinely very helpful and quick to the point which is what I like about this channel. This is just how I see it. I really don't think it's a matter of "I don't need to look what you think is good" because we all kind of collectively agree on what we "should look like". There's a lot I want to write about but this is a youtube comment section and I'll probably get grilled for it lol.
Paul Johnson (1 month ago)
Great vid Robin! I'm 33, and just getting into fashion. I've always liked it, but have never done anything about it. One of the problems that I see with men's fashion, is that they're often telling people how to me "a real man." That sort of "real man" thinking is so wrong and outdated. There are so many different ways to be a man that don't involve "having the perfect timepiece." Thanks for this fresh, non-judgmental approach!
Mert Hacı Dertli (1 month ago)
2016 look is the best by far
Gamer (4 months ago)
What about people with darker skin?
Red Devil (5 months ago)
I don't think it's black and white. I see your point, but I feel that ever since I started caring more about my style, my personal hygiene, grooming and in general taking care of myself I started feeling more confident. So buying yourself those new clothes or that new hair product and trying it out and looking at yourself and thinking, damn I look good makes you feel better. From many YouTubers you'll see styles and various products and they help guide you and give you inspiration as to what you can do to develop yourself. You might then try something and then you don't like it. That is the important moment where you have to think consciously and decide that this isn't for me and not just go for it because someone else did it. Try what other people do, and if you like it do it. But if you don't then don't force yourself. That's the best way to put it imo
Dany Dorito (7 months ago)
I love the message this video is trying to send, but I completely disagree and I feel there is nothing wrong with wanting to improve yourself, and no matter how you feel, some people are just ugly and some are not. Being attractive is not as subjective as you make it out to be.
Tommy Crawford (7 months ago)
Loved this so much! I'm actually at a turning point in my life and this video was so needed in my life right now. Thank you!!
M S (9 months ago)
Very inspirational. :) Just beautiful.
Nathan Ramirez (10 months ago)
I'm really glad I'm subscribed to you.
bob joe (11 months ago)
I refuse to accept my height. I’m 18 but I’m still 5,5’. I stretch and exercise 6 days a week for an hour and I eat around 3,000~4,000 calories. My diet consists of mostly protein but also vegetables. I haven’t consumed any junk foods or soda for a whole year and I drink a gallon of water everyday. Is there still hope for me to grow?
ParanoidPixel (11 months ago)
I've watched A LOT of your videos over the past few months and I never felt bad about myself watching your content. I may not like myself for a variety of reasons, but your videos never contributed to that. In fact, they had quite the opposite effect. I feel very welcome here and positive about myself when watching your content. I may not care about fashion and trends, but I've learned a lot. I feel very happy and empowered as I learn more and more about what works for me.
Cathal Magee (1 year ago)
I hated the moustache but now its growing on me ...😏
Austin Knight (1 year ago)
One of your BEST videos. Thank you for speaking out!!
Krystal Tikva (1 year ago)
Wow, this video was NOT what I was expecting (and I'm so glad!). I guess I need to look inside myself and try to build my self confidence. Thank you for making this video, I feel like you said so many important things that none of us hear often enough.
Samir Gabe (1 year ago)
I like it when u say those models have faces that are “OK" because its true,majority of those kind of guys and women have the same and boring kind of faces even though they are attractive:D
_yxng_scrilla (1 year ago)
Thanks but by the way 'bullshit'? I never knew u say explicit words Oh and I'm 10 No hard feelings though it still helped me a lot 😀
Hemnathe Gopal (1 year ago)
Robin James, you are an inspiration :)
Robert Sargeant (1 year ago)
Thank you for this its made me think that don't need to change the way I look for anyone :)
Jacob Saadoun (1 year ago)
i have low self confidence bc i feel like im ugly, i feel my nose isnt so good and my eyes and eye area is sor great either any tips?
The Thumb Puppy (1 year ago)
It "was" a rant, but why not ;)
voicedify (1 year ago)
I'm ugly and I'm proud.
Raj Mahamunkar (1 year ago)
The content is quite interesting and different than other grooming channel. I enjoy watching the videos. Keep making videos 😀.
Kevin Cassidy (1 year ago)
You're like the supportive down to earth brother some of us never had, thanks infinitely Robin
Grant Francisco (1 year ago)
This video is wonderful, Robin! A lot of people are going to benefit from you simply speaking your mind :)
Limegreen _2015 (1 year ago)
Wow you're a great person I loved this video and I'm newly subscribed to you now. Keep it up man!!
Eli (1 year ago)
Probably my favorite one of your videos. I really walked into this like "what can I do to myself to make me more appealing?" But this is actually worth more than the other ones I have seen.
weyjosh (1 year ago)
You're definitely a precious and inspirational to me sir. Also I'm really loving the Anglo-Saxon look you're sporting. Don't stop
Gussy .D (1 year ago)
Just subbed, this channel is very refreshing. You strike me as somebody with more integrity than similar channels, your content is professionally presented and you're funny without being cringey (Blumaan...). Really great work man, also it's nice to see a fellow Brit amongst the sea of Americans!
Matt Ball (1 year ago)
I think attractiveness is based upon how you view yourself rather than what other people feel is attractive. In a world where people are into different things and different looks I think being attractive is when you yourself are happy with the way you look.
sus4b9 (1 year ago)
I agree with you 100% on this one, Robin.  There are some videos out there, from big male "style" channels and I honestly look at the guy and am thinking "why are people taking advice from this knob?"
DAI87 (1 year ago)
I've just stumbled on your channel Robin, and this video immediately made me subscribe. Love your honesty, and keeping the chat real! Looking forward to watching your other videos!
Racks † (1 year ago)
You look like that German Dude from that German Group from Pitch Perfect 2
antoine basquiat (1 year ago)
Robin, I want your mustache on my face...
Michael Voithofer (1 year ago)
great video Robin!
Joel Gottlieb (1 year ago)
Fantastic video Robin, it really just put me in a better mood. So happy I recently found your channel.
Ryan Laiciffo (1 year ago)
*cough* teachingmensfashion *cough*
hij (1 year ago)
Robin, but when a unattractive guy hits on you, do you look him up and down and say: "Oh No honey". Or do you let him down easy?
Simon Rockstream (1 year ago)
Josh (1 year ago)
Can you make a hairstyle video for guys with wide foreheads?
Ryan Gibson (1 year ago)
Love this
Benjamin Patten (1 year ago)
Thank you robin. It is wrong for people to pray on teen insecurity. These videos are WRONG
Robin James (1 year ago)
Philipp Zelenka (1 year ago)
This should be a staple for everyone in youtube to watch. Also absolutely need a trend tested on coffee featuring that flat white
Robin James (1 year ago)
Love that Trend Tested idea!
Saf Hury (1 year ago)
Robin, just wanted to ask: Have you tried the Aveda men's grooming clay? I was thinking of getting it but wanted to hear what you have to say about it. Thanks
Robin James (1 year ago)
Hey! I own it but still to properly try it.
Harry (1 year ago)
I'm 16 and starting college this video acc helped quite a lot man cheers 👍
quan nguyen (1 year ago)
i have thin hair but a lot of hair can i use products for thick hair too ??
TheMaverickUK (1 year ago)
how to be more attractive? 1. don't wear a moustache
Tanvir Hagane (1 year ago)
"They are gorgeous, but they all look the same." Omg this is the line of the century.
RocketFox (1 year ago)
hit the nail on the head
Robin James (1 year ago)
Etiros (1 year ago)
I agree!!!!
Robin James (1 year ago)
Thanks Etiros.
Josue Perez (1 year ago)
I love the stache!
Robin James (1 year ago)
Cheers Josue.
Jovan Manku (1 year ago)
Dude , I love the vids and when u go to the barbers ,,, what do you ya ask for 💯
Robin James (1 year ago)
Hey Jovan! I have popped a link to my haircut video in the description.
Pasha 92 (1 year ago)
Great video
Robin James (1 year ago)
Thanks Pasha
Georg (1 year ago)
Great video, Robin. Havin' some trouble catching up with your uploads laterly!
Georg (1 year ago)
They are and it all sounds interesting, but it's unfortunately just too much for my time budget. You really strengthened your upload shedule since your channel started!
Robin James (1 year ago)
Ah, what's happened? Are they not coming through?
Alex (1 year ago)
Robin which brand has the better shampoo and conditioner? American Crew or Baxter of California? Also which of the 2 has the better styling products?
Robin James (1 year ago)
Hey, I've not used either of their shampoos. And it depends what products really.
harash 5 (1 year ago)
I wish I had ur eyes 😞
Robin James (1 year ago)
I'll loan them to you.
Erick Rodriguez (1 year ago)
Those ppl just want views lolz
Robin James (1 year ago)
And they're getting them!
Aziz Nikbin (1 year ago)
You're a beautiful person inside and out, Robin! Thank you.
Robin James (1 year ago)
We all are!
Antonio Vasques (1 year ago)
I agree with you. There have been so many videos and a lot of discussion about how women don't have to fit into a specific beauty standard, about female body image issues and self esteem, and it seems that men never question any beauty standard. I have been searching for opinions like yours in this video. There are so many guys and boys out there obsessing over physical perfection and beauty products because they think these things alone are gonna make them happy and complete, and that is so sad, cause their internal emotional issues are still going to be there, no matter how many creams they use or how many hours they spend in the gym. To work in your favor, these things have to be "accessories" to self-esteem and self-confidence. One thing I find specially interesting about developing your self-esteem is that you even start to think you actually look pretty good just the way you are. And let's never forget, cause it is true, that there are as many ways to be pretty/handsome as there are people.
Robin James (1 year ago)
I love what you said here: "accessories" to self-esteem and self-confidence
VeryNuclear (1 year ago)
So height can increase after 17. Now I can hope :)
VeryNuclear (1 year ago)
Robin James till what age does height increase?
Robin James (1 year ago)
Of course!
MrOngky100 (1 year ago)
This is the most realest thing that i've watch in terms video of "how to look attractive" Good job Robin
Robin James (1 year ago)
Thank you
Lorenzo cammerinesi (1 year ago)
When I saw the title I thought, no even Robin with this kind of video I'm gonna unscribe from the channel , but after I watched the video I changed my mind, you are the best saying the secret is the confidence and nothing else, pure true but I'm one of who hates your mustache
Robin James (1 year ago)
Thanks Lorenzo. I am also pleased that you have some sort of opinion on my moustache, but it really doesn't matter what you think about it. I'm very happy.
Dominik Chow (1 year ago)
nice one
Robin James (1 year ago)
Thanks Dominik.
Gregor Chandler (1 year ago)
Robin James (1 year ago)
Thanks Gregor!
vmexceptional (1 year ago)
those moustache are revolting :D :D and I apreciate you dont care, but i need to say, just awful :p
Robin James (1 year ago)
You don't 'need' to say, but thanks anyway.
Sander Cohen (1 year ago)
I like the mustache
Robin James (1 year ago)
Jonathan Vieira (1 year ago)
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Robin James (1 year ago)
LOVE this. Good find.
Ujjwal Roy (1 year ago)
I loved the content ....so different
Robin James (1 year ago)
Thanks Uijwal.
TDM Style (1 year ago)
LOVE this. I felt the same, seeing all these types of videos going up lately. Thanks for being real about this important topic, and I really dig the sort of "casual chat" type of format!
Robin James (1 year ago)
Ah, thanks man. Appreciate it.
Tomasz K (1 year ago)
Maybe somebody asked You already, but I don't follow all Your comments, excuse me. Will You make a video about how to make the handlebar moustache?
Robin James (1 year ago)
I'd love to. Will get one done soon.
Seth Lewis (1 year ago)
This was a much needed video. I would love if you did a video on how you exercise and what you eat in a normal day and week. Love you!!💗🌸✨
Robin James (1 year ago)
Great idea, Seth.
Rahm Menon (1 year ago)
Idk why...you always remind me of Robbie Williams (formerly from Take That). 😉 Please take it as a compliment as Robbie is a super amazing dude.
Robin James (1 year ago)
I've heard that quite a lot. More when I was younger.
Drastic Gamers TV (1 year ago)
this is great video...I like that chair on which u sat
Drastic Gamers TV (1 year ago)
Robin James oh...and ...what do u think the waist size should be then ?...u said urs was 34 right ? ...now I'm 34...just tell me what an ideal size would be ?
Robin James (1 year ago)
Thanks! And yes, it's a comfy one. A classic Ikea.
brutalbeetle (1 year ago)
I think part of it is, a lot of guys are turning to online dating where there's two rules. Rule 1: Be attractive. Rule 2: Don't be unattractive. Girls won't even respond to you if you're not attractive, doesn't matter how charming or confident you are.
brutalbeetle (1 year ago)
That's unfortunate, I always thought it might be easier since guys tend to be more... forthcoming, whether gay or straight. The grass is never greener lol.
Robin James (1 year ago)
I hear you. It's the same for us guys who like guys!
kunal Jiwani (1 year ago)
I have fine hairs i want to style my hairs like you but without using any hair wax/clay just by using hair brush and hair dryer, Will you plz make a video on it plz but without any product
Robin James (1 year ago)
Hey, you can't do it without any product unfortunately. Otherwise it's the exact same hair, just blowdried.
Evan Rogers (1 year ago)
This video was so important. I loved it.
Robin James (1 year ago)
Thanks Evan.
Sam (1 year ago)
Keep the commentaries coming! I really enjoy them.
Sam (1 year ago)
Do it! (:
Robin James (1 year ago)
For sure. Perhaps a series?
fusty moss (1 year ago)
Hey! Robin.. I would just want u to do a video on how can a vegan immaculately dress up formal without using all those leather belts and shoes
Robin James (1 year ago)
Sounds like quite the video! To be honest, probably not something I'd cover on here. Sorry.
Salvador Millan (1 year ago)
Thank you Robin you are like an older brother bro!
Robin James (1 year ago)
You are very welcome.
Chris Hansen (1 year ago)
since when did you became gay and how did you deal with it
Robin James (1 year ago)
Sounds like a minefield of nature vs. nurture...
Belvin Nadar (1 year ago)
It's nice to see people like you who don't judge people on how they look. But a majority of people judge others just on the basis of looks alone and that's why such videos exist. And secondly, it's not wrong for a person to try and improve his looks.
Robin James (1 year ago)
Hey Belvin, of course it's not wrong for someone to want to improve themselves. I am all about that. But, as I've said in the video, I'm not in agreement with people categorising what they think 'ugly' or 'attractive' is.
Free Tommy B (1 year ago)
Great message dude.
Robin James (1 year ago)
Thank you
Nation X (1 year ago)
excellent video
Robin James (1 year ago)
Thank you
Abhishek Shetye (1 year ago)
Now that's why u r my favorite YouTuber!!!
Robin James (1 year ago)
Always upfront
Jennifer Harton (1 year ago)
Sometimes it takes the right person to say it in a way that just clicks. Thank you Robin. I am different than what I use to be but I don't feel different and most times I don't see myself differently. I love who you are and I'm grateful for how you help people.
Jennifer Harton (1 year ago)
Robin James thanks 💗
Robin James (1 year ago)
We're all in this together, Jennifer. We just need to speak more openly. 🙏🏼💙
sage g (1 year ago)
Please make a video discussing how you dealt with eating your feelings. This is something I've struggled with for most of my life and I'd like to know your story.
Robin James (1 year ago)
Hey! Yes, could totally be a video.
Jeff Davidson (1 year ago)
Hi robin
Robin James (1 year ago)
Hey Jeff
David Harkess (1 year ago)
Thanx for this one Robin ... Sorry it has been a while erm ... I've been having computer probs, all sorted now. I am almost 50 years of age and am still trying to find myself (you know what I mean, clean it up guys) I am still trying to find a look and a style that I like and what suits me best. I am full of confidence but I am at a loss ... I feel great wearing suits, even going shopping and I don't feel comfortable wearing what everyone else is wearing like the Adidas stuff. I need to find that something which is missing from my life. One day I hope I find it. Great video as usual Robin and keep up the good work that you do.
Robin James (1 year ago)
Hey David, hope your computer is sorted. Well, keep experimenting with style and see how you feel. As long as you feel good, it will all flow.
Ben Ha (1 year ago)
Thank you so much for this video Robin :)
Robin James (1 year ago)
Always so welcome
MrKuwaitwolf (1 year ago)
Love this whole discussion about these types of videos. I think in a way I was sort of becoming convinced by some of these videos but after watching this, I realize perhaps there are some things I would be better off embracing. Thank you Robin <3 Really appreciate this video.
Robin James (1 year ago)
And this is why I had to do this video. You are not alone in your thinking. Keep perspective and embrace your own identity.
Ben Rokowski (1 year ago)
Robin, I haven't finished the video yet, I actually JUST started it. But your hair really caught my eye. PLEASE tell me how you did it for this video it looks fantastic. Or at least just the product...
Robin James (1 year ago)
Hey Ben, all info on hair and clothing in description. Shout if you have any issues.
Ben Rokowski (1 year ago)
Okay, now I watched the video and it is too fantastic. Great job!
Ryan A (1 year ago)
Dude I love this video and it makes so much sense. I've found lots of girls attractive in my life that weren't at all "hot" or "sexy" by societal standards, and I couldn't help it! Girls that may have not had the "best" body, or even girls that had some acne. They were just attractive in some other way. To me that is proof that beauty really is quite subjective and I have to keep remembering that!
Robin James (1 year ago)
Everything is subjective... and I'm sure some of those girls thought the same about you. 😉
Nash Martin (1 year ago)
I understand what you mean. I actually have the opposite problem that most people have, I have a super high metabolism so I don't gain weight very easily. Most people think that it must be great to have a super high metabolism but it kind of hurts when people start to think of me as weak when they see that I'm skinny (even though I am an athlete). I'm not anorexic or anything (I am actually quite healthy) but I openly hear people saying that I'm too skinny to be attractive.
Nash Martin (1 year ago)
Robin James Thank you! Means a lot!
Robin James (1 year ago)
Ah, Nash, well it sounds like you are anything but weak. Keep winning!
Micolash (1 year ago)
Great video this really reminded me to not get caught up on looks, thank you.
Robin James (1 year ago)
You're very welcome
Angshudeep Banerjee (1 year ago)
And rooooobin nailed it again
Robin James (1 year ago)
Thank you
Regan Donohue (1 year ago)
Good video, even better timing. Quality content, mate. Keep it up! :)
Robin James (1 year ago)
Cheers Regan
Abdel Hamiid Abiid (1 year ago)
i would love to see you in full beard !
Robin James (1 year ago)
I would too but it's totally patchy
Ben Whitehead (1 year ago)
Thanks man. Great video. This is going to improve my day :-)
Robin James (1 year ago)
That's exactly what I like to hear.
Jake (1 year ago)
I am loving where this channel is going. It has become so much more than just hair videos. This channel has so much empowerment to it. I finally figured out who I was and I started to live my life for myself and not for what society says I should be. Great work, Robin! -Jake :) Btw: I am one of the fans of the mustache!
Robin James (1 year ago)
Hey Jake, what a lovely message. Thank you so much. And I'm glad you're taking something from it.

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