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The Science of Style - Style That Gets You Paid | The Science of Style

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Wanna make more money? Try dressing like your boss. In today's video I am sharing a proven tip that comes from the NLP world. Have you tried this and succeeded? Leave your story in the comments. Style Freebies: Ultimate Wardrobe Checklist for Women: http://laurenmessiah.com/ultimate-wardrobe-checklist  ‘How To Dress Right For Your Body Type’ :  http://laurenmessiah.com/body-type-ebook  SUBSCRIBE for pro fashion tips, insider trends and new videos: http://bit.ly/1N7xVjn Connect with me on social media: Visit the Lauren Messiah WEBSITE: http://bit.ly/1wCjCxF Like me on FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/LaurenMessiah Follow me on TWITTER: http://bit.ly/1Tm2ruM Follow me on INSTAGRAM: http://bit.ly/1L4iGZ4 Follow me on PINTEREST: http://bit.ly/1WfU0Ah About me: I am a fashion expert, on-camera talent and a premiere personal fashion stylist in Los Angeles. I believe that style is for everyone. I work to educate and empower women through my daily dose of fashion advice, shopping guides and styling tips. Style That Gets You Paid | The Science of Style http://www.youtube.com/user/StylistLaurenMessiah
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Shira Newlander (4 months ago)
And if your boss dress funny?
Desiree Lozada (6 months ago)
Twins! :D made me lol
Divine Style (9 months ago)
Not loving the mock background. So much more interesting in your home or areas where you typically film.
Philip Lankford (9 months ago)
I firmly agree! If there something that I truly admire I will emulate ...it ended up being on the road to success, Great advice😉
Scarlett Sulu (9 months ago)
simply love your channel
Kathey Briggs (9 months ago)
I adore that vest!
Micaela Wedge (10 months ago)
I agree. I believe style can change your life.
Micaela Wedge (10 months ago)
My current boss always wears oversized, baggy clothes that do nothing for her body. She usually wears hiking boots, tennis shoes, or flip flops to work. No, she is not a backpacking tour guide, a gym instructor, or a lifeguard. She works in an office, and doesn't care if her finger nail polish is chipped off.
Genius Nature (10 months ago)
So nice little tips that make the difference! Thank you!
Roberta Bersani (10 months ago)
You are awesome Lauren!
Ashley Werner (10 months ago)
Wht if your boss doesn't have any sense of style 🤔
Bargain Holic (10 months ago)
Oh my. I outscored the HR lady on the personnel test and she favors polo shirts year round and pants never skirts. She knows I'm under rated but copying her style isn't hard I gave her my pants when I lost weight.
T Floyd (10 months ago)
Bargain Holic - 😂 that is hillarious
Sol Ini (10 months ago)
Uhum. As if no one will notice this kind of suckling up. Its just pathetic.
T Floyd (10 months ago)
I think this method of copying the heirarchy was called 'dress for success' in the old days. In my humble opinion, that time is fading fast. Style is now more than the clothes you wear, and working for multiple clients while chatting on a computer is becoming the norm. The world of employee / employer is radically changing. If you are exploring your business style, then absolutely learn and wear the company uniform. Understand the benefits of the particular style - whether it is a polo shirt and shorts, a pencil skirt and blazer with shoulder pads, the use of specific colored lipstick, handing out business cards while saying something nice about your company, or showcasing the use of specific apps on your phone. Once you understand the company style (its benefits and is pitfalls), you'll know where you fit ... now and in the future. And if later you go into another career or enter the gig economy, you will have idea of what to keep or change in your style to make the maximum impact. My one piece of advice, for at least some part of your business wardrobe, even if it is a single outfit, or the case on your phone, or the glasses you wear ... style it for who you are secretly.... If you are intelligent, define a style that says with quiet authority, you are a keeper of knowledge. If you are a curious sort of person or a researcher, tuck a pencil behind your ear or use your tablet as an accessory. If you are competetive, choose the colors that show your independence or your team spirit. If you are a peacemaker, create a look that says you have the knowledge and authority to bring peace. If you are secretly afraid the world will find out you are a fraud, dress the part of a fraud until you realize your value and then slowly change you style to display that previously hidden value.
Kim Böes Keim (10 months ago)
Golden advice! 😎
klj788986sbb (10 months ago)
T Floyd good advice 👍
Heather P (10 months ago)
My boss dresses terrible. I out dress her daily. Most people think Im the manager...but obvi Im not. Yet ;)
Anna Rehbinder (10 months ago)
My boss was a man on My highest position so far I took My cute from him on the level he dressed when meeting with local goverment and goverment and he was proud over the way I dressed because When he sent me to negotiate I looked the part ie represented him and his power so I was not competing with him , he saw me as an extension and an asset more like look what I found .... I also dressed more relaxed like him When not representing but always always avoiding secretary Style, Always trousers always good boots , often cashmere poloneck and a heavy gold bangle ie like a successful IT manager who happened to be Female . have also mimicked part of women boss Style if I liked it with good effect but then ive chosen the bosses because I wanted to learn from them and been careful about it for women- even asked you look so great in x, would you mind if I borrowed the Idea of x but never ever do it if you do not sincerily like that aspect
Alison Archer (10 months ago)
I find this fascinating Lauren. I tend to always chameleon other people I'm around naturally that I gravitate towards. I am an introvert and I have a lot of anxiety issues and insecurity because I am transgender. I thought I did this because of my issues, but I notice other people doing this to me sometimes as well! As in saying the same phrases I do. But I wonder if we subconsciously do this for some instinctual reason, some primal tool we picked up on to make people like us. It certainly seems to work in my personal life! Thank you for this extremely interesting video, I am going to research this! :)
Shuray Merriweather (10 months ago)
Unfortunately I don’t think this tip works well if you are female with a female boss. Per the other commenters I’ve also had negative experiences due to dressing better than my boss and most times being more competent and professional. I’m not dumbing down my skills and wardrobe for my boss or anyone else to like or promote me. I just move on to better opportunities. Maybe the approach will work if your boss has low self esteem and is looking for a friend but that gets rather creepy.
Shuray Merriweather (10 months ago)
T Floyd whelp maybe it fits more so than I’m willing to admit since I don’t do titles, trends nor placing people in boxes. Life is very complicated and that simplifies it too much for me. Thanks for the insight. Always good to know what others see. 😀
T Floyd (10 months ago)
Shuray Merriweather - which is classic alpha female. You set the space and by your prescence and demeanor, you let others know how to act. You don't need to compete, yet you succeed in what is important. You don't force others to do your bidding, yet everyone eventually is on the same wavelength as you. A short google search of alpha female vs alpha male might bring some clarity.... or not.
Shuray Merriweather (10 months ago)
T Floyd I have some alpha qualities but not really a good fit. I’m not a competitor nor do I challenge others. But if someone accost me they have and will be handled. Attempting to stay in the peace and love zone. 🤘🏼❤️
T Floyd (10 months ago)
Shuray Merriweather - if you've been having issues with a female boss, you might want to do some research on what it is at be an alpha female. I have the feeling you might be one, and the role is completely different than being an alpha male.
Dr. Erinn Tucker, PhD (10 months ago)
Great topic Lauren. I agree with your assessment and the theory behind it. I have learned to dress for the job that you want but not better than the person who has to conduct your performance evaluations (i.e. your boss) LOL. The mirroring tip is nothing I was told but as I moved into my first leadership position, where I report to a woman, the mirroring tip is big and is true. It was not forced though, it happened organically that she picked out our similarities. I did not try to dress the same, but it does make her feel comfortable. So, mirroring body language and one item, that you must be comfortable with as well, does work. This stems from being in the workplace at a time of uncertainty, that having something to point out in common soothes all of the daily uncertainty.
Cat Lady (10 months ago)
Lauren...your insight was spot on! Over 25 years ago my goal was not to remain as a regular employee...management was my goal and forte. So early on I observed the power women and their attitude and attire. Adjusted myself accordingly and yes, I got the promotions, special projects, perks and the challenge of different positions within the company. It worked for me...no regrets...and NO never sat in meetings as a creepy twinsy! LOL
iliveasnatalie (10 months ago)
I think that’s a very tricky tip. Right now, I’m self-employed and no longer need to put up with it, but from past experiences: (1) Some bosses LOVE the control over you. They have an incessant need to make you feel “they’re in charge” and don’t like when you dress too professional. They think you’re after their job and treat you worst. (2) Sometimes, dressing really well leads your boss, who already doesn’t like you, to thinking that your nice clothes means you’re already being paid “well enough” so no raise needed. (3) What happens when your boss has no style? They themselves look like a hot mess with their un-ironed blazer and cheap fabric floral prints. Lolol
Lorelei (10 months ago)
Wow! I had a boss who wore a grey skirt, grass green blouse, brown scarf, red bra and pink shoes, all designer, of course,, but all together a big mess. I dressed normal and according to the job I had, but she still hated me. She felt I was competing with her. My lesson was try best to.dress a little worse than your boss if you want to keep your job. Or best, be your own boss and own it, like I did.
Lorelei (10 months ago)
I think as long as you wear whatever is nice and appropiate for the job, hey... not my fault the boss can't put a decent outfit together. Would the world shutter if we support and stimulate each other, instead of putting us down with envy?
STILL WATERS (10 months ago)
Same goes for makeup/hair. I had to tone it down and wear minimal makeup once I noticed my boss constantly staring, and then would be super over the top rude if I asked her a question, and just stopped short of calling me stupid. She also talked shit about me to a co-worker, who told me. Once I wore little to no make-up, and kept my hair plain, I noticed an immediate change
Lorelei (10 months ago)
Sandra Tamdjo Helas, it was no true master.
Sandra Tamdjo (10 months ago)
Lorelei its Robert Greene's Law Number 1: Never outshine the master..😎
Chassidy Farmer (10 months ago)
Lorelei I had the same problem the boss hating because I dressed better. I was always taught to look my best anywhere I go.
Chassidy Farmer (10 months ago)
I've always dressed better than my pass bosses. Any tips on that.
Ashley Werner (10 months ago)
Chassidy Farmer (10 months ago)
Lorelei exactly
Lorelei (10 months ago)
Soo, seems that you no longer work for them. Might have been a problem for them...
Evelyn S. (10 months ago)
The Mommywifelife35 what if people confuse you with your boss? at least she don't mind because I'm younger jaja We have the same hair, body type, height and also we both enjoy wearing skirts and dresses to work.
The Mommywifelife35 (10 months ago)
I was just thinking that...what if your style is better than theirs. I get compliments from my boss....I wonder what that says!!! LOL

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